Wading Through Life…

As the song says, life can be hard sometimes. Doing things is hard sometimes. Believe it or not, even words are hard sometimes.

Many of us start out the new year wanting (sometimes desperately) to make changes in our lives. Myself included! But change is hard.

This past November, I found a key that helped me accomplish a goal. It still wasn’t easy, but it was easier. I went from not writing at all to getting in several writing sprints per day.

The key? Accountability.

I asked a few fellow authors who were participating in the same monthly challenge as me if they wanted to start a small accountability group. Just post your goals and chick in daily. That’s all. We would hold each other accountable to work towards our goals, offer encouragement, celebrate our wins, and help find solutions to struggles.

Guess what? It worked! And so did I!!

After all, I’d be horribly embarrassed if I failed completely. That got me through the first few days. Then I was encouraged by the response and progress of my fellow authors. The writing got easier (most days), and I found myself looking forward to posting my progress each day.

I mean, I wasn’t perfect. I didn’t write every single day, because…life. Right? But in just 30 days, I got a hell of a lot more done than in the previous 6 months.

December came. The challenge ended. I stopped posting and—bam! No more words.

Suddenly all the other stuff on my plate became more important, more urgent, more—well—noticeable if it wasn’t done. More noticeable than the writing.

But I have a book I want to finish. Editing to accomplish. I have a series I want to publish this year.

I could struggle alone, or ask for some accountability!

So a small group of authors are joining me this year to Get Some Shit Done!

I believe this is part of creating good goals that can actually come to fruition. Most people have this idea that they have to do it all themselves. I don’t know why we feel this way. All work is easier if you have a helping hand.

Look at the obstacles and put a system in place that will help you take the steps. It will be so much easier! Whether its an exercise partner, or an in-person class to learn the thing you’ve been trying alone for the longest time, or a weekly meeting to give your family a time and place to decide on meals for the week.

What are your goals for this year? Do you have a plan to accomplish them?

I’d love to hear from you!

Dani

It Caught My Eye…

I’ve had stairs on my mind lately. A stairwell plays a prominent place in my current work-in-progress (WIP) as the location of a very tragic event, an event that the heroine is reminded of every time she has to pass or use this staircase in the house. It makes the home a very emotional place for her. What should be a beautiful centerpiece as you enter a home is transformed into a reminder of grief and tragedy.